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External validation makes me happy |
Elitist, shallow, lacking an internal compass/ethics |
Failure to contribute to the world sufficiently |
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Being unconventional makes me happy |
Discarding customs/traditions that have value |
Overly reliant on past wisdom/knowledge |
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Being rational makes me happy |
Ignoring/ignorance-of your gut/instinct/feelings |
Believing what feels right = right/truth |
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Being/knowing who I am makes me happy |
Over contented-ness, over confidence |
Depression, poor mental and/or physical health |
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Helping others makes me happy |
Being taken advantage of, ignoring self |
Cold hearted, selfish, asshole |
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Being independent makes me happy |
No person is an island, trust issues, avoidant |
Overly co-dependent, can't work/function alone |
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Being honest/forthcoming makes me happy |
Can make yourself enemies, example: Thomas More |
Pathological dishonesty, self serving vanity |
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Intellectual complexity makes me happy |
Impracticality (possibly), alienation from others |
Under-developed mental abilities / capability |
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Being calm makes me happy |
Not caring what others think, egomania |
Erratic emotional system, useless in crisis |
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Being structured makes me happy |
Excessive rigidity, inability to be spontaneous |
Excess disorganization, inconsistent productivity |
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Change makes me happy |
Not sticking with things, living a transient existence |
Inflexibility, closed off to change |
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Physical exercise makes me happy |
Exercise addiction / overtraining, body narcissism |
Obesity, health problems, lethargy |
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Romantic love makes me happy |
Being codependent, lacking an individual identity |
Fear of authentic intimacy / commitment |
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Being 'high' makes me happy |
Substance abuse problems, alcoholism, thrill seeking |
Fear of losing control, pleasure-less life |
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Being different/unique makes me happy |
Exaggerated uniqueness, envy of those more unique |
Not grasping / developing your unique identity |
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Being adventurous makes me happy |
Escapism, recklessness, danger of physical injury |
Playing it too safe, failure to test/expand your limits |
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Being social makes me happy |
Failure to develop an internal identity |
Social isolation, intolerance of others |
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Exploring the mysterious makes me happy |
Investing in beliefs that are inaccurate or wrong |
Limiting yourself to the knowable set of truths |
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Working with others makes me happy |
Less productive / functional on your own |
Refusal to work with others, appreciate others |
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Working hard makes me happy |
Work-aholism, burn out, using work to avoid issues |
Lazy, irresponsible, unproductive, aimless |
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Argument/conflict makes me happy |
Underlying anger/entitlement/insensitivity issues |
Conflict averse, avoidng legitimate issues |
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Being dominant makes me happy |
Bossiness, being a bully, not considering others |
Unambitious, inability to take the lead |
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Going against authority makes me happy |
Knee jerk rebellion for the sake of rebellion |
Overly compliant to authority good or bad |
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Being wealthy makes me happy |
Spoiled, entitled, materialistic, superficial |
Insufficient resources to lead a full life |
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Being safe/secure makes me happy |
Playing it too safe, irrational concerns for safety |
Reckless, endangering self and/or others |
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Having sex makes me happy |
Promiscious, substituting sex for real intimacy |
Rigid, uptight, vanilla, fearful of intimacy |
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Avoiding growing up makes me happy |
Immaturity, irresponsibility, avoidance of reality |
Overly mature, stiff, overly realistic |
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Being attractive makes me happy |
Shallow, self-obsessed, manipulative |
Unconcerned with appearence to the detriment of health |
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Being artistic makes me happy |
Unrealitically impractical, superficial, irrational |
Uncreative, unimaginative, unappreciative of the arts |
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Being religious makes me happy |
Close minded, intolerant of the non-religious |
Close minded, intolerant of religion |
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Being a humanitarian makes me happy |
Loss of self to the needs of others, Martyr complex |
Lack of consideration for the suffering of others |
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Being frugal makes me happy |
Focus on saving instead of living, miserliness |
Financial impulsiveness, irresponsibility |
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Being desirable makes me happy |
Narcissism, entitlement, vanity |
Self hatred, issues with body
dysmorphia |
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Being honourable makes me happy |
tbd |
Breaks promises, not true to one's word |
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Being extravagant makes me happy |
Snobby, elitist, wasteful, egotistical |
Overly minimalist, ascetic, self punishing |
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Having a family makes me happy |
Overly traditional, close minded, co-dependent |
Overly untraditional, depressed, life-hating |
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Being suspicious helps me survive |
Incapable of trusting others, overly jealous |
Overly trusting, dupe-able, naive |
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Not having feelings is easier |
Unable to feel emotions, clinically depressed, apathetic |
tbd |
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Being odd/weird is useful |
Delusional, unrealistic, choosing fantasy over living |
Unimaginative, uncreative, unoriginal |
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Being strong helps me survive |
Rage-aholic, violent, a physical danger to others |
Repression or denial of anger / hatred |
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Self hatred is useful |
Self hating, suicidal, self injuring, pessimistic |
tbd |
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Getting attention is useful |
Attention whore, liar, lacking an internal identity |
Repression or denial of your desire for attention |
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Being superior is useful |
Delusions of granduer, megalomania, unsympathetic |
tbd |
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Avoiding emotional pain is useful |
Refusal to engage with others/life because of fear |
tbd |
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Being dependent is useful |
Excessive reliance on others to get by, parasitic living |
tbd |
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Being perfectionistic is useful |
Excessive need to be orderly at the cost of flexibility |
tbd |
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Being funny makes me happy |
Use of humor as an escape from dealing with issues |
tbd |
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Having pets makes me happy |
Risk of pets being a substitute for human relationships |
tbd |